Love and attachment, are they the same? When it comes to relationships, when you love someone, should you never ever let go? Is marriage the only way to profess or prove your love? Does it mean you should never compromise your attachment to the person? No matter which state this relationship is in? Like even if it ended up becoming a toxic one, is it still worth fighting for?

With these past holidays, the sense of Jesus coming to earth as one of us human beings becomes more and more tangible to me. The sacrifice that went with it just for God to prove how much He loves us is something I could never do, now that I am a parent myself. But I found a loophole in it.

Watching this video made me realise, that in the process of convincing man to love God back He knew that in the end, giving His son to redeem us of our sins wasn’t the greatest gift He had given. But it was free will. That at the end, He just settled with those who are willing to prepare their souls for His second coming. Without forcing them anymore as much as converting them all in His doing like wiping the earth with flood. Or sending plagues.


Diane Perry, her birth name, was born in Hertfordshire, United Kingdom in 1943. At 74, she lives as an author, teacher and founder of the Dongyu Gatsal Ling Nunnery in Himachal Pradesh, India. She knew as early as 18 years old that she is for Buddhism while she was reading the book, “The Mind Unshaken” by John Walters. She became devoted in seeking enlightenment through it. At 21, she had the opportunity to ask His Eminence the 8th Khamtrul Rinpoche, a great Drukpa Kagyu lama, who was visiting her school that time to be absorbed. Not longer than three months after, she was named Drubgyu Tenzin Palmo and became one of the first Westerners to be ordained as a Tibetan Buddhist Monastic.

She had gone through a lot with her practice in pursuit of full ordination including living alone in a cave for 12 years for her solitary spiritual practice. In recognition of her spiritual achievements as a nun and her efforts in promoting the status of female practitioners in Tibetan Buddhism, Tenzin Palmo was given the rare title of Jetsunma (‘Venerable Master’).


Applying this lesson in real-life relationships, we should learn how to let go when fate calls it. Because wishing the person you love the most happiness is one thing. But ‘actually’ giving it and accepting the fact that him or her being happy may not include you is noble. It’s giving that person the freedom, the free will. Find it in your heart to say what you truly feel. But most importantly, find it in your heart to set the person free.


I have a deep regard for your time. It's when I write and cook that time becomes non-existent. I love learning and while you think I am the kind of lady who has a lot of things to say, just take it that I was sharing what I had learned with full impact over a cup of Joe.

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